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PRAISE PEOPLE AROUND YOU (PART -1)

 PRAISE PEOPLE AROUND YOU (PART -1)


If I have to praise someone, why I feel as if I'm dying, I move forward to praise that guy, suddenly feel comes as if I'm losing my life. I don't know how this is happening, who is stopping me to move ahead and praise this guy. Please look above on this two Gentlemen seem quite senior but bit hesitant to congratulate this lady.        

                                                                             

Recently, I had small interaction with my Boss. Boss told me that there is some function day after tomorrow and expecting a big gathering. All the faculties are coming from all over. We have one new recruit who has joined our company just three months back and has been doing great job. He has made one manual which is quite handy and is helping each and every one in our department. I said then what do I do? Boss said during function you have to praise that guy, talk to him and then tell him his good habits, right? So that he's encouraged and will do better job in future also. So, I said, sir you are the best person to praise him as you have been handling this guy for last three months, I have hardly met him. Boss said no, you will do the praise. I said OKAY, I should follow my boss.


 Function day came, I was made to stand, I stood, and I was thinking and thinking. I started saying something and then I thought now I need to praise this guy. The moment I started, I mean my first word about that guy, Suddenly I felt as if I am dying. I could not praise this guy.

 Though, I knew this guy had a long list of good habits, but still, I could not do it. I mean the moment I started, I felt as if I am losing my life. I don't know what has happened to me that time, who is stopping me for doing this good act and then I thought okay, what do I do then. I can't praise him then what should I talk about this guy? So, I was thinking that he has joined our company only three months back and doing very good job, you never know tomorrow he may bypass me, or may be bypass many of us and become our boss tomorrow. You never know.

 I was thinking all these bad things; all the bad thoughts are coming in my mind. I was not thinking about the guy who is supporting our department so well.  I was only thinking that he may topple us one day. What will happen then? Then I decided something else. I told only two good habits of that guy and sat down.

Function got over. Then I started moving towards home. While going home, I was thinking why I could not praise that guy.

 What was stopping me to do that job? I was thinking and thinking. That's the thought coming in my mind again and again. I thought I am so senior to him and still why am I so scared of this guy. Why? This thought was just lingering in my mind for long time.

Note: We feel comfortable when we have to praise somebody one to one. But when it comes to praise same person in front of crowd to give him some mileage in the society, we take U turn and don't praise him then.

Reason: when we praise someone in front of crowd we feel as if we are losing our life or entity.


How can one change his/her mindset and improve behavior and habits.                       

                      

 Part 2 will follow soon.

                              

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