Anger Management
This is my true story …..on anger management and then follows the related story.
How I controlled my anger to control my boss about 10 years back. I went to my Boss to say him good morning as he had come after a
little break and he just came on me
firing left and right on some small issue happened some time back. Thank
God I did not react, kept my cool but he
kept scolding me for about a minute or
so . Finally he stopped firing me …that was the time when I thought I should
leave . Had he been talking /firing I would not have left his room as part of the courtesy. I came out, went straight to my
room and sat. First time in my life time someone had fired me this way….I felt
bad. I would have given him back then and there but maintained my calm by virtue of my nature. I felt good about this characterstic of
mine for not reacting to this particular
situation at once.
I have analysed and also later read in some book that anger remains for about 20 minutes. If
you are able to control affected person in these 20 minutes , you can turn the
tables on your side or say you will be able to control that person very well.
Exactly ,Similar thing happened, after
20 minutes I saw some movement outside my room. Someone opens my room and I see my boss
standing near the door. I request him to come in. He comes inside and starts discussing very politely about some
course / training about to be commenced early next week I briefed him on that subject and then he left my room.
During the discussion I had with my Boss I observe that his body
language was almost saying sorry to me.
Being boss he could not say sorry orally but his body conveyed that he is feeling sorry
for that bad act he had done 20 minutes
back.
I felt too good that my silence made me
achieve something new . This was
a very good lesson learnt on Anger
Management.
Believe me or
not if you don’t react in such critical juncture you win over person involved in the episode and ultimately you control that person.
You may
please try this technique on any one as this is already been experimented and
tested.
I understand that It is very difficult , not to react to someone who is scolding you left and right. That person could be your Boss, Colleague , friend,
brother, sister , father , mother or may be your wife.
You have to give signal to your mind that I will maintain my calm to
control the situation and it is going to work most of the time.
Later this similar incident happened again between me and my colleague
and same as earlier I kept my cool, did not react at all. In the evening same
colleague comes to my house and says sorry to me for the behavior he showed at
the closing hour of the office.
If you can control yourself in
this situation , you will be able to control concerned person after 20 minutes and you will always have win- win situation for you .
It is
experimented and tested.
Slowly with time you will lose the habit of even getting anger in these
situations . You will become a cool person and once that happens you will be
able to control people of such kind very comfortably.
Hope you will like this fact , will apply in your life and of course will feel proud of yourself by doing this.
I will come with my next topic in a day or two. Till then Good Bye....take care and stay safe.
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RELATED STORY:-
There
was a Father who used to play with his son everyday when he used to
return from office.One evening,he was not in the mood to play with his son.The
son, unused to being denied ,kept insisting that the father play with him.The
father started thinking of ways to keep the boy busy.He took a world Map,and he
tore it into little pieces.he then told his son, “ Today’s game is that you
should piece together that world map. “The son went to his task with
determination and in only twenty minutes ,he announced that he had joined the
map together! Hearing this ,the father forgot all his anger and tiredness , and
started wondering how on earth a boy of eleven years could have joined that map
together in only twenty minutes. So He asked the boy , “ How could you join the
map so quickly? “ The boy replied, “ very simple ,father when you were
tearing the map , I could not see the different portion of the map .However ,I
could see the Portrait of the man behind the map.I fixed the portrait and the
world automatically became alright.”
All
angry people are sending vibrations full of anger towards you, and so they
expect similar vibrations in return.Respond to them with Patience,you will be
pleasantly surprised by the result.You can not change the world. You have to
change yourself first. The moment you change there is a new world out there
waiting for you.
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